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      <title>Kink On Tap chosen + community links feed</title>
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         <title>Ohh, potentially interesting for #kinkontap. Via @malindalo Visibility of Gay People Reflects Changes in China http://nyti.ms/c9KEPP</title>
         <link>http://twitter.com/siniful/statuses/22941030673</link>
         <description>Ohh, potentially interesting for &lt;a rel=&quot;nofollow&quot; target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://search.twitter.com/search?q=%23kinkontap&quot;&gt;&lt;b&gt;#kinkontap&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;. Via &lt;a rel=&quot;nofollow&quot; target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://twitter.com/malindalo&quot;&gt;@malindalo&lt;/a&gt; Visibility of Gay People Reflects Changes in China &lt;a rel=&quot;nofollow&quot; target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://nyti.ms/c9KEPP&quot;&gt;http://nyti.ms/c9KEPP&lt;/a&gt;</description>
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         <pubDate>Fri, 03 Sep 2010 19:27:19 -0700</pubDate>
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         <title>Apple Hides Prop 8 Tweets from Lady Gaga Promo Page for Ping (Screenshots)</title>
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         <description>Apple, Inc. recently launched a new social music service, Ping. Among the features it has is social media integration that lets you view celebrity Twitter streams. In the launch, &amp;#34;Apple&amp;#039;s promotional image for the new feature conveniently omits a string of Tweets from Lady Gaga&amp;#039;s timeline in which she protests anti-gay marriage legislation Proposition 8,&amp;#34; [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Thu, 02 Sep 2010 05:01:54 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Apple, Inc. recently launched a new social music service, Ping. Among the features it has is social media integration that lets you view celebrity Twitter streams. In the launch, "Apple&#039;s promotional image for the new feature conveniently omits a string of Tweets from Lady Gaga&#039;s timeline in which she protests anti-gay marriage legislation Proposition 8," writes Marshall Kirkpatrick after being tipped to the inconsistency by Kevin Marks (on Twitter).</p>
<p>"Apple, we see you," Violet Blue <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://is.gd/eQOet">writes</a> on her blog, chiding the company. GLBT sites like <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://ur1.ca/1fyi3">The Daily Storm</a> called the service "homophobic" and say the omission is an act of censorship. Now, <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://kinkontap.com/?p=1101">Apple&#039;s certainly not the most sex-positive company</a>, but is this homophobic censorship? That seems harsh. Either way, the controversy clearly shows that Apple&#039;s <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://kinkontap.com/?p=837">anti-porn position is a slippery slope</a>.</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.readwriteweb.com/archives/apple_hides_prop_8_tweets_from_lady_gaga_promo_page.php">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Sex, like fine wine, improves with age, seniors say</title>
         <link>http://www.xtra.ca/public/National/Sex_like_fine_wine_improves_with_age_seniors_say-9086.aspx</link>
         <description>&quot;One of the greatest myths of our society is that when you get to a certain age you are no longer sexual,&quot; says Jim Deva, a 60 year old gay man. This is a really heartwarming story from a Canadian GLBT site about elders who enjoy sex. That&amp;#039;s awesome.</description>
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         <pubDate>Thu, 02 Sep 2010 03:56:58 -0700</pubDate>
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         <title>Mojowijo Lets Users Turn Their Wii Remotes Into Vibrators for Virtual Sex – San Francisco Music – All Shook Down</title>
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         <description>With games like &amp;#34;Wii Sports&amp;#34; and other family-friendly titles, the Nintendo Wii isn&amp;#039;t the console most people think of when they decry video games for &amp;#34;corrupting the youth.&amp;#34; (That&amp;#039;s what Sony PlayStation or PC-based first-person shooters do.) Nevertheless, the Wii&amp;#039;s controller, the Wiimote, offers exciting possibilities for reinterpretation, kinda like Disney. That&amp;#039;s what Mojowijo has [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 01 Sep 2010 18:06:31 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>With games like "Wii Sports" and other family-friendly titles, the Nintendo Wii isn&#039;t the console most people think of when they decry video games for "corrupting the youth." (That&#039;s what Sony PlayStation or PC-based first-person shooters do.) Nevertheless, the Wii&#039;s controller, the Wiimote, offers exciting possibilities for reinterpretation, <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://malesubmissionart.com/879252420">kinda like Disney</a>.</p>
<p>That&#039;s what Mojowijo has done: they took the computerized, vibrating capability of the Wiimote and turned it into an Internet-controlled cybersex toy that&#039;s turning heads, opening minds and thighs, of course! The company&#039;s website touts "Mojowijo&#039;s patent pending Motion2Vibration technology, the device is able to transform the varying motions of the control into appropriate vibration signals and send them to another selected device &#8211; in the same room or over the Internet [&hellip;e]ssentially turning your Wii remotes into shared, remote controlled vibrators&hellip;!" Well then. I&#039;m game!</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://blogs.sfweekly.com/shookdown/2010/08/mojowijo_wii_vibrator.php">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Oh, No, It’s a Girl! South Asians Flock to Sex-Selection Clinics in U.S. – New America Media</title>
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         <description>&amp;#34;Last time I checked,&amp;#34; geneticist Dr. Mark Hughes says, &amp;#34;your gender wasn&amp;#039;t a disease.&amp;#34; But that&amp;#039;s not stopping Dr. Jeffrey Steinberg and others like him from using techniques originally developed to cure diseases from running &amp;#34;Family Balancing&amp;#34; clinics in the United States that offer &amp;#34;100% sex-selection program&amp;#34;s. Steinberg says that &amp;#34;for every woman I see [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 01 Sep 2010 16:46:00 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>"Last time I checked," geneticist Dr. Mark Hughes says, "your gender wasn&#039;t a disease." But that&#039;s not stopping Dr. Jeffrey Steinberg and others like him from using techniques originally developed to cure diseases from running "Family Balancing" clinics in the United States that offer "100% sex-selection program"s. Steinberg says that "for every woman I see regarding the breast cancer gene, I see 400 women who want to choose the sex of their child."</p>
<p>Sex-selection is a very hot issue, and at $18,000 a pop, Steinberg&#039;s clinic is an extremely lucrative business. His patients often travel to the US from India, Canada, and other countries where sex-selection is illegal. However, there are significant gender biases in US families, too, especially among Indian, Chinese, and Korean parents. And pre-implantation genetic diagnosis, Steinberg&#039;s method, is just one method of sex-selection; another is actually abortion performed after an ultrasound. It all makes me wonder where to draw the line.</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://newamericamedia.org/2010/08/oh-no-its-a-girl-south-asians-flock-to-sex-selection-clinics-in-us.php">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Emotional Skills Help Men Live Longer | Good Vibrations Magazine</title>
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         <description>&lt;p&gt;It’s been known for a while that &lt;a rel=&quot;nofollow&quot; target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Life_expectancy&quot;&gt;men tend to have a shorter life expectancy than women&lt;/a&gt;. While there are a few guesses as to why that is, one factor is having a macho attitude.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel=&quot;nofollow&quot; target=&quot;_blank&quot; href=&quot;http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,2014038,00.html&quot;&gt;Time Magazine&lt;/a&gt; reports that some new research shows that emotional openness increased boys’ mental health through middle school. Further, it’s known that men who try to tough it out when they need medical attention don’t get the care they need. Being able to ask for help is a much more effective way to deal with life’s challenges than trying to go it alone. As the saying goes, many hands make light work.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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         <pubDate>Tue, 31 Aug 2010 20:17:50 -0700</pubDate>
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         <title>Emotional Openness May Be Good for Males’ Mental Health – TIME</title>
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         <description>A recent study by Professor Carlos Santos found that stereotypically &amp;#34;girlish skills&amp;#34; like empathy and the desire for intimate relationships help boys lead mentally and emotionally healthier lives&amp;#8212;and may even save young men&amp;#039;s lives. His multi-ethnic study also found zero correlation between race and hyper-masculinity, countering media stereotypes that often depict minorities as delinquent. But [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:21:58 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A recent study by Professor Carlos Santos found that stereotypically "girlish skills" like empathy and the desire for intimate relationships help boys lead mentally and emotionally healthier lives&mdash;and may even <em>save</em> young men&#039;s lives. His multi-ethnic study also found zero correlation between race and hyper-masculinity, countering media stereotypes that often depict minorities as delinquent.</p>
<p>But as <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.charlieglickman.com/2010/08/emotional-skills-help-men-live-longer/">Charlie Glickman points out</a>, "if you read the Time article [by Eben Harrel], you&#039;ll see some of the sorts of language that reinforce the macho mindset." In <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://maybemaimed.com/2010/08/10/how-sex-negative-lies-perpetuate-a-fear-based-culture/">yet another example of the media being part of the problem</a>, Harrell uses phrases like "stop sniveling and &#039;be a man&#039;" and "being a mama&#039;s boy," which is the headline, no less. If boys or men escape stereotypes, we risk being gay-bashed.</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,2014038,00.html">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Police target those who pay for prostitutes with new billboards and a one-year-old county ordinance that levies steep fines - chicagotribune.com</title>
         <link>http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/ct-met-drugs-prostitution-20100829,0,7420667.story</link>
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         <pubDate>Mon, 30 Aug 2010 22:09:13 -0700</pubDate>
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         <title>A new low for Women's Health magazine. City ranking by penis size</title>
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         <pubDate>Sun, 29 Aug 2010 17:08:02 -0700</pubDate>
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         <title>SPOTLIGHT: Lifting the lid on Project Acumen’ | An Anthology of English Pros</title>
         <link>http://KinkOnTap.com/?p=1180&amp;utm_source=rss&amp;utm_medium=rss&amp;utm_campaign=spotlight-lifting-the-lid-on-project-acumen-an-anthology-of-english-pros</link>
         <description>Recently, project Acumen, by Association of Chief Police Officers in the UK, put together a report called &amp;#34;Setting the Record,&amp;#34; which sought to discover how many sex workers, and particularly migrant sex workers, in the UK were &amp;#34;vulnerable&amp;#34; or &amp;#34;trafficked.&amp;#34; Naturally, there were immediately headlines all over the Internet saying things like &amp;#34;1 in 10 [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Sun, 29 Aug 2010 17:00:34 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Recently, project Acumen, by Association of Chief Police Officers in the UK, put together a report called "Setting the Record," which sought to discover how many sex workers, and particularly migrant sex workers, in the UK were "vulnerable" or "trafficked." Naturally, there were immediately headlines all over the Internet saying things like "1 in 10 Sex Workers Trafficked," with the number of trafficked workers being reported as anything from 2,600 to 12,000. Because, of course, most media sources want to get something published more than they want to read through appendices. Stephen Patterson of An Anthology of English Pros, however, did read through the whole thing. What he has to say about it not very surprising to us at Kink On Tap, but I bet it would surprise the heck out of a lot of the people reading the mainstream coverage of the report.</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://stephenpaterson.wordpress.com/2010/08/20/spotlight-project-acumen-up-close/">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Erotic Fiction (Bookshelf) - Gutenberg</title>
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         <pubDate>Fri, 20 Aug 2010 22:04:26 -0700</pubDate>
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         <title>Wikileaks founders arrested for rape (EXPRESSEN)</title>
         <link>http://KinkOnTap.com/?p=1144&amp;utm_source=rss&amp;utm_medium=rss&amp;utm_campaign=wikileaks-founders-arrested-for-rape-expressen</link>
         <description>It&amp;#039;s no real surprise. When an individual becomes dangerous enough to a group in power, that group will try to discredit the individual in any way possible. That appears to be what happened to Wikileaks founder Julian Assange, who was arrested in absence (not physically detained) in Stockholm, Sweden, for rape allegations put forth by [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Sat, 21 Aug 2010 00:26:40 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#039;s no real surprise. When an individual becomes dangerous enough to a group in power, that group will <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2010/04/06/salvation-army-attacks-sex-positive-activist-through-its-human-trafficking-email-list/">try to discredit the individual in any way possible</a>. That appears to be what happened to Wikileaks founder Julian Assange, who was arrested in absence (not physically detained) in Stockholm, Sweden, for rape allegations put forth by two unnamed women between the ages of 20 and 30, according to a report by the Swedish-language tabloid Expressen. Assange is the most public figure in numerous international scandals, the most recent of which is the largest US military secrets leak in history.</p>
<p>The rape allegations were announced after Assange gave a lecture in Sweden about the "victims of war," including "truth." There were few details released and police have stated only that there is "probable cause" for the arrest, but no evidence yet.</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://translate.google.com/translate?js=y&amp;prev=_t&amp;hl=en&amp;ie=UTF-8&amp;layout=2&amp;eotf=1&amp;act=url&amp;u=http://www.expressen.se/Nyheter/1.2104976/wikileaks-grundare-anhallen-for-valdtakt&amp;sl=sv&amp;tl=en">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>
<p><strong>Update:</strong> Sure enough, Expressen&#8217;s headline is now <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://edition.cnn.com/2010/WORLD/europe/08/21/sweden.wikileaks.charge/index.html">spreading to international news outlets, including CNN</a>. Considering that election fever is just starting to infect America, this story, which may very well capture headlines for quite a while, seems well-timed to shift the focus of public debate away from the real issues—you know, that whole war thing—and onto Assange&#8217;s personal sexuality. A tried-and-true political tactic: when you can&#8217;t win, misdirect!</p> 
<p><strong>Update:</strong> Just one day after the charges were filed, <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.politico.com/news/stories/0810/41333.html">Swedish police have canceled the arrest on Julian Assange</a> and have withdrawn the charge of rape, according to a report by Charles Hoskinson. However, a second charge, sexual molestation, still stands. Clearly, sensitive issues are at play here so we may never know the truth, and the suspicious timing should raise eyebrows. That said, regardless of whether there <em>was</em> a rape or not, I hope that the Swedish police followed due legal process.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Making Jails Safer for Transgender Mainers | gbge.aclu.org</title>
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         <description>A 2007 study found that “[s]exual assault is 13 times more prevalent among transgender inmates, with 59 percent reporting being sexuallyassaulted.”</description>
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         <pubDate>Fri, 20 Aug 2010 22:02:03 -0700</pubDate>
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         <title>Ceara Sturgis' High School Earns An ACLU Lawsuit For Refusing Her Tuxedo Yearbook Pic / Queerty</title>
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         <title>Miss. lesbian student sues over rejected tux photo – Yahoo! News</title>
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         <description>Ceara Sturgis has been wearing masculine clothes since ninth grade, but her High School denied her the opportunity to wear a tuxedo in the yearbook photo and opted, instead, to flat-out omit her name. Now Christine P. Sun, the ACLU lawyer who represented Constance McMillen in a similar case earlier this year, &amp;#34;filed a federal [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Thu, 19 Aug 2010 04:00:17 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ceara Sturgis has been wearing masculine clothes since ninth grade, but her High School denied her the opportunity to wear a tuxedo in the yearbook photo and opted, instead, to flat-out omit her name. Now Christine P. Sun, the ACLU lawyer who represented Constance McMillen in a similar case earlier this year, "filed a federal lawsuit for Sturgis, claiming the Copiah County district discriminated against her on the basis of sex and gender stereotypes," Shelia Byrd reports. "It&#039;s unfair and unlawful to force students to conform to outdated notions about what boys and girls should look like without any regard to who they actually are as people," Sun said. Sturgis said she cried when she saw the yearbook and felt punished "just for being who I am."</p>
<p>This new filing comes weeks after McMillen reached a settlement against the Itawamba County School District. McMillen credits Sturgis, whose own legal battle has been going on far longer, with giving her the inspiration for her own challenge.</p>
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         <title>Victory for Free Speech: Third Circuit Strikes Down University of Virgin Islands’ Speech Codes – FIRE</title>
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         <description>Can you be punished for saying something that made others uncomfortable? Stephen McCauley was, after speaking with a college rape survivor. But this week, the Third Circuit court of appeals struck &amp;#34;down unconstitutional speech policies maintained by the University of the Virgin Islands&amp;#8230;on First Amendment grounds.&amp;#34; The case, brought against the University&amp;#039;s &amp;#34;regulations prohibiting &amp;#039;offensive&amp;#039; [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Thu, 19 Aug 2010 02:27:48 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Can you be punished for saying something that made others uncomfortable? Stephen McCauley was, after speaking with a college rape survivor. But this week, the Third Circuit court of appeals struck "down unconstitutional speech policies maintained by the University of the Virgin Islands&hellip;on First Amendment grounds."</p>
<p>The case, brought against the University&#039;s "regulations prohibiting &#039;offensive&#039; or &#039;unauthorized&#039; signs and conduct causing &#039;emotional distress&#039;" and provisions in the University&#039;s Code of conduct prohibiting "any act which&hellip;tends to injure or actually injures, frightens, demeans, degrades or disgraces any person" was ruled <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overbreadth_doctrine">overbroad</a>, affirming prior legal precedent distinguishing college students from lower education students as having greater First Amendment protections than their counterparts. "[L]et me be clear," Robert Shibley explained. "Maintaining speech codes [in public institutions] violates the law."</p>
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         <title>Is sex a human right? (via early to bed)</title>
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         <description>Early To Bed has a great rundown of a recent controversy: In England, a 21 year old man with learning disabilities is receiving government funding to take a trip to Amsterdam for the purpose of losing his virginity to a prostitute. &amp;#8230; This is just one of the many people receiving sexual services funded through [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 18 Aug 2010 18:31:17 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Early To Bed has a great rundown of a recent controversy:<br />
<blockquote>In England, a 21 year old man with learning disabilities is receiving government funding to take a trip to Amsterdam for the purpose of losing his virginity to a prostitute. &hellip; This is just one of the many people receiving sexual services funded through a &pound;520million scheme introduced to empower those with disabilities.</p>
<p>[A social worker] claims, "Refusing to offer him this service would be a violation of his human rights." Jezebel points out the sobering point that this is similar to language used by misogynists to defend rape. &hellip; [D]oes any one else find it odd that a country where prostitution is illegal has no problem sending a young man to see one elsewhere?</p>
<p>So, is sex a human right? No, but sexuality is. &hellip; Should taxpayers foot the bill for a 21 year old&#039;s sex holiday? Hell no.</p></blockquote>
<p> This sheds some much-needed light on debates over acceptable sex and, more importantly, personal sexual responsibility.</p>
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         <title>Sex and Censorship: What Recent Attacks on Online Sex Discussions Have to Do With Your Blog | BlogHer</title>
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         <description>With 3 stories of anti-porn&amp;#039;s inherent pro-censorship stance, Anaiis Flox illustrates what&amp;#039;s at stake: &amp;#34;This isn&amp;#039;t an issue of us vs. them, morality versus indecency, conservatives versus liberals, [but] a matter of freedom to speak, freedom to congregate, freedom to learn about ourselves and to share that knowledge.&amp;#34; Anaiis discusses Facebook&amp;#039;s rash of censorship, attacks [...]</description>
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         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>With 3 stories of <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1886">anti-porn&#039;s inherent pro-censorship stance</a>, Anaiis Flox illustrates what&#039;s at stake: "This isn&#039;t an issue of us vs. them, morality versus indecency, conservatives versus liberals, [but] a matter of freedom to speak, freedom to congregate, freedom to learn about ourselves and to share that knowledge."</p>
<p>Anaiis discusses Facebook&#039;s rash of censorship, attacks on <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://kinkontap.com/?p=771">Jason Goldman&#039;s column</a> and <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2010/04/14/fear-of-the-geeky-teen/">Donna M. Hughes&#039; sex-fear-mageddon</a> by way of <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1447">attacking KinkForAll</a>. Then she turns the "think of the children" argument on its head:<br />
<blockquote>Yes, think of the children&mdash;that is, think about what you do when a child disagrees with someone. Do we tell them to make their points by attacking the dissenting opinion or by crafting an argument that is valid and useful?</p></blockquote>
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         <description>Dr. Emily Nagoski got stuck: &amp;#34;In this case the Q is, &amp;#039;I want to try X. How do I ask my partner for that?&amp;#039; But the A? I&amp;#8217;m stuck.&amp;#34; Thankfully, from her transparent learning come great teaching opportunities: I could lecture endlessly about communication skills, self-esteem and self-acceptance, the value of honesty, the importance&amp;#8211;indeed the [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 18 Aug 2010 16:20:37 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dr. Emily Nagoski got stuck: "In this case the Q is, &#039;I want to try X. How do I ask my partner for that?&#039; But the A? I&rsquo;m stuck." Thankfully, from her <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.connectivism.ca/?p=122">transparent learning</a> come great teaching opportunities:<br />
<blockquote>I could lecture endlessly about communication skills, self-esteem and self-acceptance, the value of honesty, the importance&ndash;indeed the art&ndash;of hearing "no" without taking it personally.</p>
<p>But in the end, the answer to, &ldquo;How do I ask my partner to&hellip;?&rdquo; is &ldquo;You just suck it up and ask.&rdquo;</p></blockquote>
<p> For people like Emily (and, after practice, me) the benefit of asking is so self-evident that <em>not</em> asking seems crazy: "I think my frustration and helplessness with this question comes from my own history of having to beg partners please to just fucking tell me what they need, what they want&hellip;. Ask for what you want, I could say, because NOT asking for what you want is dishonest, selfish, and emotionally destructive." Amen!</p>
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         <title>Bering in Mind: Oedipus Complex 2.0: Like it or not, parents shape their children’s sexual preferences</title>
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         <description>It&amp;#039;s an old trope that women grow up anticipating and fearing the point when they will become exactly like their mothers. But do heterosexual women grow up fearing that they will one day marry a man exactly like their father? Jesse Berring writes fascinatingly about the truths of how early experiences shape later sexuality, and [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 18 Aug 2010 16:01:21 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#039;s an old trope that women grow up anticipating and fearing the point when they will become exactly like their mothers. But do heterosexual women grow up fearing that they will one day marry a man exactly like their father? Jesse Berring writes fascinatingly about the truths of how early experiences shape later sexuality, and comes to the shocking conclusion that incest-avoidant habits are socially ingrained, not biologically, and that the same set of experiences that lead us to find our siblings sexually disgusting lead us to seek out people of a similar genetic phenotype to ourselves; hence those blond-on-blond families we sometimes encounter. It&#039;s not always true, of course, and most interesting of all, there is virtually no way to predict whether you&#039;ll seek out somebody just like you, or look for someone as different as can be.</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.scientificamerican.com/blog/post.cfm?id=oedipus-complex-20-like-it-or-not-p-2010-08-17">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>CDC Report: AIDS Is a Black – and Poor – Disease – New America Media</title>
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         <description>In America, &amp;#34;HIV clearly strikes at the economically disadvantaged in a devastating way,&amp;#34; Dr. Kevin Fenton of the Center for Disease Control (CDC) said in a statement at the recent biennial international AIDS Conference. At the conference, the CDC released a study revealing a strong link between low socioeconomic class and HIV/AIDS, finding that although [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 18 Aug 2010 15:22:34 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In America, "HIV clearly strikes at the economically disadvantaged in a devastating way," Dr. Kevin Fenton of the Center for Disease Control (CDC) said in a statement at the recent biennial international AIDS Conference. At the conference, the CDC released a study revealing a strong link between low socioeconomic class and HIV/AIDS, finding that although "Blacks are 12.8% of the U.S. population, they represent 45% of all people infected each year with HIV." And the link between oppressed groups and HIV risk just get worse from there. Black women, the study found, "represent 66% of all new HIV cases each year among women," and "although Black teenagers are only 15% of U.S. teen population, they account for 68% of all new AIDS cases among teens." And for gay and bisexual men, 46% of Black men have contracted the virus, compared to 21% of gay and bisexual men who are white.</p>
<p>Contrary to what some would like to believe, biology isn&#039;t to blame for this; social stigmas and prejudices are.</p>
<p class="kot-brief-source"><a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://newamericamedia.org/2010/08/cdc-report-aids-is-a-black---and-poor---disease.php">Read brief source&hellip;</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Polyamory: The Next Sexual Revolution? – Newsweek</title>
         <link>http://KinkOnTap.com/?p=1114&amp;utm_source=rss&amp;utm_medium=rss&amp;utm_campaign=polyamory-the-next-sexual-revolution-newsweek</link>
         <description>Do you feel that? It&amp;#039;s the wind of change, and it&amp;#039;s blowing your way. Prop 8 is going-going-gone, and while its supporters don&amp;#039;t tend to say much we agree with, we&amp;#039;ll grant them that perhaps it does herald the arrival of a more accepting, open time for American relationships. Newsweek gives credence to this theory [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 18 Aug 2010 15:22:33 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Do you feel that? It&#039;s the wind of change, and it&#039;s blowing your way. Prop 8 is going-going-gone, and while its supporters don&#039;t tend to say much we agree with, we&#039;ll grant them that perhaps it does herald the arrival of a more accepting, open time for American relationships. Newsweek gives credence to this theory with this article about polyamory, which stresses the communication poly relationships rely so heavily upon, and says that having polyamorous parents isn&#039;t necessarily harmful to children, so long as they have a stable home. In fact, with extra, loving people around to help with homework and provide rides, having a poly family might not be such a bad thing! The article speaks with Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle&#039;s Center for Sex Positive Culture, and draws heavily on the life and experiences of Terisa Greenan, creator of "Family," an online video series that deals with both the joys and the complications of living polyamorously.</p>
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         <title>Love makes teen sex less academically harmful, study says – CNN.com</title>
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         <description>A new study has &amp;#34;raise[d] some doubts about abstinence-only education programs that link all types of adolescent sex to a wide variety of problems for teens.&amp;#34; The study, conducted by Eric Grodsky and Bill McCarthy and released at the annual American Sociological Association&amp;#039;s meeting, found that teen sex is not inherently a bad omen for [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Tue, 17 Aug 2010 20:02:29 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A new study has "raise[d] some doubts about abstinence-only education programs that link all types of adolescent sex to a wide variety of problems for teens." The study, conducted by Eric Grodsky and Bill McCarthy and released at the annual American Sociological Association&#039;s meeting, found that teen sex is not inherently a bad omen for educational achievement. "The authors say students who have sex only with romantic partners have generally similar academic outcomes as students who abstain from sex," CNN reports. The study highlights the reality that the context of sexual activity greatly affects the outcome, positively or negatively. It revelaed "students who describe their sexual activity in terms of &#039;hook-ups,&#039; &#039;friends with benefits&#039; or &#039;bed buddies&#039; are more likely to suffer a negative impact on their education," such as an increased chance of dropping out of school or a lower overall GPA. In other words, sex isn&#039;t the problem, lack of mutually rewarding relationships is. Duh!</p>
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<p><strong>Update:</strong> We <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="https://twitter.com/heathercorinna/status/21450882000">learned thanks to Heather Corinna</a> that, as the media is wont to do, this study was severely misrepresented by journalists all over the place. In her analysis, <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2010/08/17/so_about_that_study">Heather writes</a>: <q cite="http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2010/08/17/so_about_that_study">&#8220;Some reporting and discussion of the findings suggests that big differences were found with academics for young people who had sex in non-romantic contexts and those who either have not had intercourse or who have done so in romantic contexts. But the study and the authors&#8217; comments don&#8217;t appear to make that statement at all.&#8221;</q> There&#8217;s a lot more, such as the fact that despite media reports to the contrary, the study never uses the word &#8220;causes&#8221; to indicate any harmful connection between teen sex and academic achievement, nor does it actually ever use the word &#8220;committed&#8221; to describe the relationships studied. Poor media reporting about sex and young people, and about young people&#8217;s sexuality in particular, is incredibly—infuriatingly—common.</p>]]></content:encoded>
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         <title>Indonesia Botches Porn Blockade, Shuts Down Regular Sites – XBIZ.com</title>
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         <description>Back in 2008, to the cries of &amp;#34;Thank you, God!&amp;#34; Indonesian parliament members passed a draconian anti-pornography law. Last month, they announced their (now legal) intentions of blocking all online pornography during the holy month of Ramadan, when the religious are expected to refrain from any immoral acts, including viewing porn. (Only during that one [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Sun, 15 Aug 2010 16:34:01 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Back in 2008, to the cries of "Thank you, God!" <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/23/world/asia/23indo.html">Indonesian parliament members passed a draconian anti-pornography law</a>. Last month, they <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/23/world/asia/23indo.html">announced</a> their (now legal) intentions of blocking all online pornography during the holy month of Ramadan, when the religious are expected to refrain from any immoral acts, including viewing porn. (Only during that one month, I wonder?)</p>
<p>Unsurprisingly, the country-wide filter ran into a snag as 30 websites, including news portals, were also blocked&mdash;unintentionally, according to Indonesian Information Minister&#039;s spokesman Gatot Dewa Broto. "The speed of the operation was so huge, we hit the wrong ones," he explained, but touted that the operation had successfully shut down 80% of its intended target. The blockade is being implemented with the cooperation of the country&#039;s 300 major Internet service providers.</p>
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         <description>Last week, Proposition 8 was ruled unconstitutional for the should-be-obvious reason that it&amp;#039;s an anti-gay discrimination bill. Proponents&amp;#039; arguments that the ruling &amp;#34;jeopardizes the democratic process&amp;#34; are forgetting that human rights aren&amp;#039;t a democratic process, but unalienable rights that American law protects. Nevertheless, that&amp;#039;s the argument they&amp;#039;re using in a rambling appeal to Walker&amp;#8217;s ruling [...]</description>
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         <pubDate>Sun, 15 Aug 2010 16:12:59 -0700</pubDate>
         <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Last week, <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://KinkOnTap.com/?p=1031">Proposition 8 was ruled unconstitutional</a> for the should-be-obvious reason that it&#039;s an anti-gay discrimination bill. Proponents&#039; arguments that the ruling "jeopardizes the democratic process" are forgetting that human rights aren&#039;t a democratic process, but <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://maybemaimed.com/2010/05/08/certain-unalienable-rights/">unalienable rights that American law protects</a>. Nevertheless, that&#039;s the argument they&#039;re using in a rambling appeal to Walker&#8217;s ruling filed <em>before</em> the ruling was announced.</p>
<p>After the ruling Judge Walker issued a stay, preventing same-sex marriages from resuming until August 18. The ban&#039;s supporters quickly appealed that ruling as well, and as the deadline quickly approaches they&#039;ve become ever more anxious for a new panel of 3 Ninth-Circuit Judges, Edward Leavy, Michael Hawkins and Sidney Thomas, to extend Judge Walker&#039;s stay order. They still have no reason other than fear as to why, though.</p>
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